A writer once said, "Thanks for supporting us. We are dying on every side. Our number is reducing drastically. So many things are working against us. We appreciate all who will just excuse us, even when we are wrong. If for nothing else, just to make sure we are spared as endangered species. Let us stop the spread of the virus called 'he was survived by his wife'. Please have good in the kitchen so we do not need to go to the restaurant. I believe that home food can be as tasty as (or even tastier than) outside food."

What did God design in marriage? Men would go out and select girls that catch their eyes and fancies. When you all did so, were you not fulfilling God's plan? The different girls listened to your toasting. Some ignored you. One accepted your sweet tongue.
Did those ones that agreed to marry do us a favor when they agreed to marry us?
When those initial girls refused your toast, did you not go get another girl?
Did you force this present one to marry you?
Did you both not know that God designed everyone's life this way?
Why should your sperm that took you energy and sweat to release become so unimportant? Did your wife say she didn't want to carry a pregnancy? Did you point the Avtomat Kalashnikova-47 to her head to secure her assent? Did she not feel happy when she became pregnant? Does that not mean you did her a favor by helping her and making her realize her womanhood? If she bore her father's name all the days of her life, do you think she would be happier that way? Didn't you think that she was bragging to other girls when her last name changed from her father's name to yours? Please spare me this theory that is different from what God set up. Your job is to love your wife. Her job is to submit to you. When she finally agreed to become your wife didn't that other girl regret losing you to her? Now, all of a sudden, you want to feel that she did you a favor to agree to become your wife. Listen: if you play the whimp she will see it and make you the whimp you have chosen to be. If you play the husband and take care of your responsibility as God designed it, she will see and call you 'lord' just as Sarah called Abraham "lord". Bring God into your life and be like Abraham. She will easily bring God into her life and be like Sarah. You will never regret it.

Do some of your old contacts suddenly wake up one day to ask how you are doing? Watch them. They need something from you. When they come, they make you feel like you are their friends. You can fall for it just to play along and see how that goes. Once they get you to your comfort level, they pop their requests. You may ignore such requests and damn the farce friendship. You may play along and see if the so-called friends will hang around after getting from you what they want from you. They are unlikely to hang around you. They will disappear only to reappear long after (when they need more from you). You are but a tool for your fake friends to achieve their results. You may spin your wheels daily because you are caring. You will realize it in the 'evening' of your life when you cannot turn back the hand of the clock. Bottom-line: take care of your OWN business as a priority over other people's problems/businesses. Be strong before you waste yourself.

Are You Wasting Admiration?

Did you know that you could be adoring a person without knowing that he or she has no regard for you whatsoever? The person would smile back to you when you smile. You will be showering him or her with so much respect and admiration oblivious of the fact that you are worth nothing in that person's eyes. Love everyone and remain conscious of your world. Invest professionally in connections, but do not overinvest your mental and emotional resources. Make concerted efforts to know who truly respects or cherishes you in the social and professional environment. hashtag#emotional hashtag#mental hashtag#profession hashtag#relationships hashtag#respect